Mary's Humility
"Humility,"
says Saint Bernard, "is the foundation and guardian of the
virtues." He is right, for without it no other virtue can exist in the
soul. Were a soul to possess all the
virtues, all would disappear were humility to go. But, on the other
hand, as Saint Francis de Sales wrote to Saint Jane Frances de Chantal,
"God loves humility so much, that whenever he sees it, he immediately
goes there." This beautiful and necessary
virtue was unknown in the world in early days. But the Son of God came on
earth to teach it by his example, and he willed that we should endeavor to
imitate him in that virtue particularly: Learn of me, because I am meek and
humble of heart (Mt 11:29). Since Mary was the first and most
perfect disciple of Jesus in the practice of the virtues, she naturally
excelled in the practice of humility. For this reason, she deserved to be
exalted above all other creatures. It was revealed
to Saint Matilda that it was humility in which the Blessed Mother
particularly excelled, even from her very childhood.
The
first effect of humility of heart is a lowly opinion of oneself.
Mary always had such a humble opinion of herself that, as was revealed to
the same Saint Matilda, although she saw herself enriched with more graces
than all other people, she never put herself ahead of anyone. Abbot Rupert,
commenting on the passage of the sacred Canticles: You have wounded my
heart, my sister, my spouse...with one hair of your neck (Cant 4:9), says
that the humble opinion Mary had of herself was the hair with which she
wounded the heart of God. Not that Mary considered herself a sinner.
Humility is truth, as Saint Teresa remarks, and Mary knew that she had
never offended God. She also knew that she had received more graces from
God than all other creatures. A humble heart always
acknowledges the special favors of the Lord in order to humble itself all
the more. But the Blessed Mother, because of
the greater light which made her aware of the infinite greatness and
goodness of God, was also aware of her own nothingness. That is why
she humbled herself more than everybody else, saying with the sacred
Spouse: Do not stare at me because I am swarthy, because the sun has burned
me (Cant 1:5). That is, as Saint Bernard explains it: "When I approach
him, I find myself black." This is true, says Saint Bernardine,
because the Blessed Virgin was always vividly conscious of the majesty of
God and her own nothingness. When a beggar is given
a costly gift, he does not show off with it in the presence of the donor.
He receives it humbly and remains conscious of his own poverty. So when
Mary saw herself enriched with grace, she humbled herself; reminding
herself that it was all God's gift. That is why she told Saint Elizabeth of
Hungary that she looked upon herself as a worthless creature and unworthy
of the grace of God. And that is why Saint Bernardine says that
"after the Son of God, no one in the whole world was ever so exalted
as Mary, because no one ever humbled himself to the extent that she
did."
Moreover, it is characteristic of humility to conceal heavenly
gifts. Mary wished to conceal from Saint Joseph the favor which
made her the Mother of God. At the same time it seemed necessary to reveal
the secret to him, if only to remove from his mind any suspicions as to her
virtue which he might have entertained on seeing her pregnant. Saint
Joseph, on the one hand, did not wish to doubt Mary's chastity; and yet on
the other hand, being unaware of the mystery, he was minded to have her put
away privately (Mt 1:19). And he would have done so had the angel not
revealed to him that his spouse was pregnant by the operation of the Holy
Spirit.
Again, a soul that is truly humble does not allow herself to be
praised. And if praises are showered on her, she refers them all
to God. Mary was disturbed at hearing herself praised by Saint Gabriel. She
was also disturbed when Elizabeth said: Blessed are you among women....And
how have I deserved that the mother of my Lord should come to me?...Blessed
is she who has believed (Lk 1:42,43,45). Mary referred everything to God,
and replied in the humble words of her canticle: My soul magnifies the Lord
(Lk 1:46). This was the same as saying: "You praise me, Elizabeth, but
I praise the Lord, to whom alone all honor is due. You wonder why I have
come to visit you, while I wonder at the divine goodness that has come to
me. And my spirit rejoices in God my Savior (Lk 1:47). You praise me because
I have believed; but I praise my God, because he has exalted my
nothingness. He has regarded the lowliness of his handmaid (Lk 1:48)." Our Lady said to Saint Bridget: "I humbled myself
so much, and have merited so much grace, because I knew that of myself I
possessed nothing. That is why I did not want to be praised. I
desired only that praise be given to the Creator and Giver of all
things." Referring to the humility of Mary, an ancient author says:
"O truly blessed humility, which has given God to men, opened heaven,
and delivered souls from hell!"
It
is also characteristic of humility to serve others. Mary did not
hesitate to go and help Elizabeth for three months. Saint Bernard aptly
remarks: "Elizabeth wondered why Mary had come to visit her; but -
what is still more remarkable - that she came not to be ministered to, but
to minister."
Humble
persons are usually retiring and choose the least honorable places for
themselves. Therefore, as Saint
Bernard remarks, "when Jesus was preaching in a house (as we learn in
Saint Matthew), Mary, wishing to speak to him, would not enter of her own
accord but remained outside, and did not avail herself of her maternal
right to interrupt him." And when she was with the Apostles waiting
for the coming of the Holy Spirit, she chose the lowest place, as Saint
Luke relates: All these with one mind continued steadfastly in prayer with
the women and Mary, the Mother of Jesus (Acts 1:14). Saint Luke was not
ignorant of the Blessed Mother's merits, which should have caused him to
name her first. However, Mary had taken the last place among the Apostles
and the women. And therefore he described them, as an author remarks, in
the order in which they were. Saint Bernard says: "The last has
rightly become the first, because being the first of all she became the
last."
Finally,
people who are sincerely humble do not look for favor. In fact, they love to be despised. That is why we
note that Mary did not show herself in Jerusalem on Palm Sunday when the
people received Jesus with so much honor. On the other hand, at his death,
she did not hesitate to appear on Calvary. She was undeterred by fear of
the ridicule she would incur when it became known that she was the mother
of the criminal. On one occasion, Mary said to
Saint Bridget: "What is more humbling than to be called a fool, to be
in need of things, and to believe oneself the most unworthy of all? Such
was my humility, O daughter. It was my constant joy and desire to please my
son in this way as much as I could."
Venerable Sister Paola of
Foligno was privileged to see in an ecstasy how great the humility of the
Blessed Virgin was. Giving an account of it to her confessor, she was so
filled with astonishment that she could only say: "Father, you can never understand how great the humility of the
Blessed Virgin was! There is no humility in the world comparable to the
humility of Mary." On another occasion, Our Lord showed Saint
Bridget two women. The one was all glamour and vanity. "She is
pride," he said, "but the other one whom
you see with her head bowed, courteous to all, devoted to God alone, and
considering herself as a nobody, is humility, and her name is Mary."
God chose that way of letting us know that Mary is the personification of
humility.
There can be no doubt,
observes Saint Gregory of Nyssa, that of all the virtues there is perhaps
none more difficult for our nature to practice, tainted as it is by sin,
than humility. At the same time, we cannot evade this truth: We can be true children of Mary only if we are humble.
"If you cannot imitate the virginity of the Blessed Virgin," says
Saint Bernard, "imitate her humility." She detests the proud, and
invites the lowly to come to her: Whosoever is a little one, let him come
to me (Prov 9:4). Richard of Saint Lawrence writes: "Mary protects us
under the mantle of her humility." The Blessed
Mother explained to Saint Bridget what her mantle was. "Come,"
she said, "and hide yourself under my mantle. This mantle is my
humility." She then added that meditation on her humility was a cloak
or mantle with which we could warm ourselves. But since a mantle gives this
service only to those who wear it and not to those who merely think about
it, she said: "Mary's humility will not help anybody except those who
endeavor to imitate her." And she concluded with these words:
"Therefore clothe yourself, my daughter, with this humility." O
how devoted Mary is to humble souls! Saint Bernard says: "She
recognizes and loves those who love her. And she is ready to help all that
call on her, especially those who resemble her in chastity and
humility." So the saint exhorts all those who love Mary to be humble: "Strive
to imitate this virtue of Mary, if you really love her."
Marinus or Martin d'Alberto, of the Society of Jesus, used to sweep the
house and collect the trash out of love for the Blessed Virgin. One day
Mary appeared to him, as Father Nieremberg relates in his life, and thanked
him saying: "I am very much pleased by this humble action which you do
for love of me."
It follows
then, O my Queen, that I can never really be your child unless I am humble.
But surely you understand that my sins, after having made me ungrateful to
my Lord, have also made me proud? O Mary, you must provide the remedy. By
the merit of your humility, make me truly humble, and help me in that way
to become your child. Amen.
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